Thursday August 9, 2007
Maybe it’s just because for three and a half years now all the babies in both our families have been blue and I am constantly surrounded by conversations about trucks, construction equipment, hammers, “work jobs,” being sixteen, and driving. Maybe it’s because I’m female myself. Maybe it’s because pink is still one of my favorite colors. Maybe a lot of things ……. I still think girl babies are cuter. Ok, so of course there are some very darling boy babies and probably some not so beautiful girl babies but speaking in general terms, I don’t think I’m the only one who’s more likely to ooh and aaah over a baby wrapped in pink.
It’s not just limited to the babies themselves (in fact, I think, this is most of the problem). Almost everything you can buy for a baby has usually three to four times the selection for girls as they do for boys. Shoes, especially. Hats, sweaters, jackets, and dress clothes run a close second. It’s not that you can’t ever find something cute for boys, it’s just harder. You have to wade past racks and stacks of girl things to find a small selection of boy items.
Speaking of darling girl babies, Christy and I had an awful lot of fun taking pictures and designing a birth announcement for Beth’s babies.
And moving on to toddlers and pre-schoolers, I think I prefer boys. The differences between men and women are amazingly present early in life and IMNSHO, boys are much more straightforward. When Adam has issues and get’s mad, he can change his attitude and move on unlike his (girl) friend who can be snippety all day if the morning starts out wrong. When Adam is crying because he got hurt, I get a defiant, “I won’t tell you,” in answer to the question, “what’s wrong?” Another friend who has a two-year-old daughter said she wails, “I don’t know.” Maybe it’s just because opposites can complement. Maybe it’s just because I hear boy conversations all day. Maybe it’s because I’m prejudiced and think Adam is one of the cutest, wittiest, smartest three-year-old boys I’ve seen. Maybe a lot of things. I still love the way Adam is all boy!
What do you think about the great boy girl debate? If you could, would you choose the gender of your baby?
ha ha….. I have OFTEN thought about this subject and it sort of irks me since I am SO very happy with my 2 girls and feel like if I have to have one gender I would way rather have girls…. but people think it is really their duty to inform me that I HAVE to have a boy, and I have NO idea how much wilder or “boyish” boys are….. someday I shall just bust into tears and ask what I should do about this injustice :). I can’t believe that is “all” boys who are messier, wilder, whatever, or all girls who aren’t. McKayla has many in the male field beat on all of those. But the emotional thing I do agree, there just are issues of “she is looking at me” kind of stuff that don’t seem to affect boys so much. All boils down to….. for me, I am so happy I have girls and the thought of no boys, doesn’t make me sad. I don’t feel cheated… maybe God makes me feel that way so I amnot discontent????
Makiya already melts down and pouts for a long time when we say “no”. Our girls are both like this and the boys tend to get mad and then get on with the day. 🙂
From my teaching background, I decided that I wouldn’t mind having an entire family of boys. In fact, I was really wishing for a boy! But, God gave us a girl and we now wouldn’t trade her for a dozen boys, even though she’s already showing that propensity to pout!
I love my boys, but in the last year or two especially, they’ve reminded me over & over again of how truly feminine I am. They EXHAUST me on an hourly basis. The older they get (Wade is nearly 6, Kendric is going on 4), the more masculine they become. Daddy’s their favorite parent all the way because he knows how to wrestle!! I love them dearly, but I’ll never understand them, no matter how often or how diligently I read Dr. Dobson’s Bringing Up Boys.
I long to have a little girl with whom to share the quieter side of life, the lace & ribbons, the grace of a lady, the beauty of modesty, the gentle spirit. ~Jo
I wanted to say, too, that when it comes to emotions, I honestly believe that our younger son rivals the girls!!! He’s a master at crying, whining, pouting, and grudges. But at least when it comes to puberty, the voice change, growth spurt, & facial hair are pretty much the extent of the “issues” we’ll have to deal with! In comparison to girls, that sounds easy.
(Hopefully his emotions will have evened out by then, anyway!) ~Jo
I don’t think I would choose if I could! I really enjoy my boys. I grew up the oldest of 11 and only had three brothers, I won’t have to share my kitchen like my mom, but I’ll also have to be willing to get dirty:)
We’ll just be happy with whatever the Lord sends us. choke. choke. Well, of course we WILL be, but you KNOW how I would be especially appreciative of a girl! When I got home, I was thinking again how fun it is to have girl babies, and enjoying the delicate part of them!!! That is hilarious about the girl/boy differences. I didn’t realize they’d be that pronounced so young.
For my first, yes, I would have chosen gender with little hesitation. I did get what I preferred, by the way, and have loved being mommy to a little girl. Now I honestly don’t care. Although, like jkamfamily said, if I would pick all one or the other, I would pick girls. That is now; don’t know what I’d say in 15 years! My two big reasons for wanting a boy in the moments that I do are: 1)I would love to see my husband be daddy to a little boy, and 2)to give Kiersten a brother since most girls seem to want one!
RYC: We actually live in va, we are just moving to a different part of the state. By the way what church did you attend in VA, Just wondering if we possibly know you?
I dearly love my boys, but knowing myself I’m afraid I would have felt cheated if I wouldn’t have had my 2 beautiful girls…. I know we can’t choose but I’m very happy with both genders 🙂
I’m very happy with what we have. The boy/girl differences are so present.. yet each are so different. I have two of each and they are all so different. I have a boy and girl that tend to be quiet and introspective and must I say it, moody.. and the other set is much more forward. I do think girl issues are definitely harder to sort through. I realized at a young age I was raising little women. I wanted a girl so bad for my first but I had a mom tell me, you won’t appreciate a boy until you have one of your own.. I understand what she meant. I was so thrilled with all the pink girl things though for my next one.. It was frustrating to me that all the cute things seemed to be for girls. Well, this got long and windy, guess if I would have been a boy it would have been short and to the point.. 🙂
Yay for the treadmill. Claps hands!
Hi, I’m missing you too, it’s been awhile since we talked. I hope your doing okay. I’m praying 🙂
About Tanya’s surgery, it was a LONG day but everything went well PTL. Poor girl is SORE now, she can’t even suck out of a straw so Frances has to tube feed her. That’s where we were last night.
About Lyndon’s new look, Ummm, do you think the other church people like it ? 🙂
Hi, How Amazing. I was shocked to hear from you! The last time we talked you were newlyweds and now you have a 3 yr. old son.:) Email me your # and I’ll give you a call.
Have A Great Day!!
*chuckles* I take pictures of only the beautiful ones, didn’t you guess that??
And, remember, I have 2 boys…..(and 3 outside cats….and a dog
)…..so I have my fair share of smashed, broken, shredded, shriveled and otherwise deformed flowers in my beds!!!!
Case in point: the huge elephant ear that is the focal point of the main flowerbed between the driveway & the house. Sat. am: I noticed & gloated over the new HUGE leaves that have grown out over the damaged bottom ones. Sat. pm: I noticed & BLEW MY TOP over the same leaves, which are now slashed & sliced & so sad-looking. Son #1 apparently had a sword fight w/ them when I was busy elsewhere….they were defenseless. *huge sighs* So despite what you see on my site, I have my share of ugly flowers, as well!!! (I won’t be taking pictures to prove it, however, so don’t even ask!
) ~Jo
Just thot to tell you that you and your sis did an awesome job on the twin’s pictures! Hmm…. my six week old girl is throwing a fit right now. I think she is very emotional already and even tries to talk sometimes. All ladies have a problem with that, or so they say. Jan
I dearly love my boy…he’s a “get-mad-quick…but quickly forgives & forgets type..” I love that about him..but I still would love to have a little girl sometime..you know, the gentle feminine type..(If I could so order them that way)..sometimes I wonder how it would be to play baby doll…have a dainty tea party or comb lovely hair ..until then, I will continue the football practice..riding go-kart..wrestling matches…making swords..knives , & slingshots..BTW the birth annoucement for beth is cute, may I ask what program you used? Maybe you’ll have to do mine( smile)
Thanks!! I’m very excited about planning a wedding and marrying the man of my dreams. 🙂